5 Things That Will Impact Your Love Life The Most and What You Can Do About It.
Welcome to the first post on the 'Foundations of Human Love-ology: 101."
Ok, I admit, I totally made that one up!
If you somehow found yourself here as you were trying to go there, let's just call it fate. As with every first meeting, I will be honest to say that my palms are a bit sweaty and my heart is definitely trying to escape me like, right about now! So, please forgive my stuttering and my "uh" and "ums" as I present to you the very topic that can solve
all some the majority of your relationship woes.
Remember back when you were that wide-eyed college freshman who first entered the psych 101 classroom auditorium? Probably you had a fresh new backpack still with the store smell. In it, was a dogless ear notebook, a crisp and creaseless textbook and several pens, highlighters, stickies and planner and who knows what else! Remember being their thirty minutes before scheduled class time sitting way up front and arranging all your tools neatly in front of you ready to write away? As the days went by as you got deep into learning all this "psychological stuff" you somehow found yourself moving deeper and deeper to the back of the class? Soon, you were catching up with your sleep there and totally missed the lecture on Maslow's Hierachy of Needs. If you're laughing nervously or thought "Maslow...who?" I'm with you.
Maslow's Hierachy of Needs
Basically, Maslow is this psychologist back in the 1940s who came up with this theory that explained 5 core principles that impact each and every life. These 5 things are:
- Physiologic needs
- Self actualization
The visual looks something like this
The physiologic needs are the base of the pyramid and it encompasses the bare necessities that a human being need to sustain life. This includes food, water, oxygen, excretion, etc. Let me just be the one to put it out there and say, physiologic need does not include sex. I know, the horror of it all. Humans can live without sex thus making the saying that the language of a man is sex nil and void. Most accurately, the way to a man's heart is his stomach as you have fulfilled his physiologic needs (more on this later)
Next up is security. Once one has food, water, air, etc. the natural inclination is to find shelter. A shelter that protects the from the harsh elements of nature, wild beast and yes, others. Security includes not only a home but stability, a job.
Now come sex...more specifically, love and belonging, family, friends. It is third up and the most fragile part of the pyramid - in my sole opinion
This is where we evaluate accomplishments, our self-esteem, and compare ourselves with others.
This is were our self worth, self awareness, intellect and reasoning comes in. This is were leaders are born, the world is change and